Luscious Intimacy Without Touch

One of my good friends wrote this article for the NY Times (click here to read: My Life Is More ‘Disposable’ During This Pandemic ).  It is about his experience as a rabbi with chronic health conditions and his experience of a lot of the language used regarding the COVID-19 pandemic.


This is a redrawn version of a Vox graphic, posted on Twitter by epidemiologist Anne Marie Darling

Before we were in middle of a pandemic, I was thinking a lot about the climate crisis and how there was a bitter irony that many of the groups most oppressed and exploited by our late stage capitalism society are the ones who might have the most wisdom about how to survive it.   It is a bitter irony because I say this as a white able-bodied (for now) woman in the U.S.  who has many unearned privileges and blessings bestowed upon her– privileges that have come at others expense regardless of whether I wanted them to or not.   And now those who are considered “disabled” might have the wisdom those of us not (yet) in that category need to survive.

“I have spent years of my life rarely leaving home. Being stuck at home due to illness often sucks, but sometimes it is other things, too. Calm. The kinds of connection that can only come from profound slowness, from borrowing down instead of stretching out. Even as we withdraw physically, our emotional and spiritual need for others has never been more visible. I already knew that we needed one another in intimate ways that go beyond the capacity of our bodies to connect. Disabled people are experts in deep, luscious intimacy without touch. We are used to being creative.” Rabbi Elliot Kukla,

That line about disabled people being “experts in deep, luscious intimacy without touch.”   YES.  That is what we all need to be reminded of right now–that we can still have powerful connection, even “luscious intimacy” without physical proximity.

This Sunday:  Online Worship at 10:30am–  We are currently broadcasting/posting Sunday morning worship in the church’s private facebook group (hoping to go more public soon!) If you are not already a member of the facebook group, please visit and ask to join!

Joys and Sorrows: If you would like us to read a joy and/or sorrow
for you and light a candle, please email Rev. Darcy at by 8pm Friday evening

Zoom Video Conference Coffee Hour and Connect & Reflect: After worship, we are going to try and connect via Zoom video conference for the first time this Sunday! (Zoom allows me to break people into groups, so there can smaller group talking with each other.)

To join this Zoom Meeting, click here:  (it may prompt you to install software, which you should do!)

Meeting ID: 976 539 809

If you want to call in on your phone, rather than video-in on your computer, then dial +1 669 900 9128 and enter this meeting ID when prompted: 976 539 809

P.S. Will you help me and join a “test” zoom video call at 1:30pm this Saturday 3/21? Just follow the instructions above, except do it at 1:30pm on this Saturday!  Thank you



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